Characteristics of an intimidating woman
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
Sometimes they come off as rude or crass, but really it's just their independent ideology and mindset that rubs people the wrong way from time to time.
Many of us do not figure out exactly how strong we are until we're in a situation that leaves us with no other choice but to be strong.
Success doesn't just have to be a work thing, either.
You may have a large social network or be an accomplished dancer or activist. If a man actually says "you're too intimidating" as an excuse to break up with you, let him walk away without any fuss.
A man will forgive a lot of flaws if he can get close to a woman who he perceives to be content with her own life, which means she won’t become a parasite or throw a bushel of plagues into his. He will be more secure in his male role and feel more masculine and competent, making it safe for him to proceed.
Take the word "intimidating." That's got to be one of the most frustrating words in the whole dating world, am I right, ladies? If a woman keeps hearing from men that she’s “intimidating”, what is she supposed to do – besides start approaching men who have more self-confidence and fewer issues? She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it. While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.If you've been called intimidating, you're probably wondering what the &*^# is up with that! Read on for a few different interpretations of this often-used label. If you're out there crushin' it professionally, it might soon become clear to the man you're seeing that you're more successful than he is. Be your genuine self and let him get to know the real you.Is the person doing the calling trying to say you're an impressive and accomplished woman? He'll see you as a whole person and not just a scarily impressive job title. If you find yourself doing so for the sake of a man, snap out of it!
Men may start out with the shallowest of aspirations and intentions, but we tend to zero in on a woman of depth and substance.